Siblings Fighting Constantly: 6 Shifts That Lower the Volume This Week
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You can't make siblings best friends. You can change the conditions that turn small moments into daily wars.
Stop refereeing
Refereeing teaches kids that conflict is something an adult solves. The more you adjudicate, the more they fight in front of you.
6 shifts
- Narrate, don't judge: 'You both want the same chair.'
- Coach the skill, don't pick the winner.
- Protect each child's solo time with you.
- Reduce shared resources that always trigger fights.
- Catch the calm — name it out loud when they get along.
- Schedule one short, easy, shared ritual per day.